A client writes to me: "He is so aggressive, he is rude to me all the time. Never apologizes. I do everything for him, why does he treat me like this? He could have at least apologized...."
Another says: "Since we have been together, everyone says that he has changed a lot, has become happy and open. But me - no, I didn’t. He drains all my energy, ignores my feelings, I don't want to look in the mirror. With him, I have aged 10 years, I forgot when I was happy the last time...."
I think, that family therapy and help in relationships are needed when both partners in a couple are ready to change something, to fight for their relationship. And sometimes, the task of a psychotherapist is not to save the relationship, but, on the contrary, to help people to break up.
Unfortunately, this common female fear still exists in our culture. They are afraid, that when they break up with this man, they will not find another one. Since ancient times, women needed a strong tribesman who would protect their cubs from saber-toothed tigers, otherwise it was impossible to survive. Therefore, now, they still continue to stay with those who do not love them, do not respect them, and take out their anger on them for their failures....
Girls, don't be afraid. The world is huge and full of men. And you won’t believe now, but there is a huge number of those men, who will respect you and recognize your feelings.
Stop putting up with all this. Live, breathe, be happy, go on dates! Get yourself flowers and bake pies for yourself.
Remind yourself, what you were like before this relationship, how easy it was for you to walk on earth. How much you smiled in that old life.
And then just go into a new life.
Where grief ends, Summer begins❤
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